Doing so before you've even determined for yourself that this will be a long-term relationship is unfair to the kids.
Since the goal is not to introduce your children to every man you date along the way while searching for your Prince Charming, it’s important that you have had time to clearly discuss with your man that although you’re not married, you both have intentions of giving a long-term, exclusive, committed relationship with each other a chance. Some of you might be thinking, "I'd love to start dating, but who would want to date someone with four children, a dog, and two parakeets? Don't automatically assume just because you have children, you're less desirable.There are plenty of people who like children and who want to date someone with children.Truth be told, younger children (under age 10) may feel confused, angry, or sad because they tend to be possessive of their parents.Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.Just as you needed time to adjust and learn new things about him, allow your child the opportunity to form their own relationship with him too. When you’ve decided it’s time, start with a no-pressure meeting.