But we were not necessarily built for relationships that last forever. So often these days men find themselves single again in their late 30s or early 40s.They come to me and share their pain and concerns that they have to start dating again. It is much easier for a man in his 40s to find desirable dating partners of the female persuasion. You need only look at the numbers to figure out why.For many men, they find themselves married, with children, a job and the game is over.But for other men, those who have either not been married by their 40s or are facing a post divorce life in their 40s, there’s a lot of good news that they need to know about.So if 90% of all men aren’t even first-date worthy, where is the place where you have access to the greatest number of men? I don’t think your negative experience in online dating is silly.I’m just a dating coach who specializes in helping women meet, connect with, and understand men.In youth, the game of sexual relationships is played according to the rules dictated by women. Young women of child bearing age have a clock ticking and they know that they need to find the most suitable father for their children.They withhold their sexual favors while they are wooed by men.
No, my 21st was a quiet dinner at the local pub followed by an early night.I’m really open to everything you say, Evan, but I never meet any good men! It’s certainly frustrating to want to prioritize your love life, but not have the opportunity to meet any new men on a day-to-day basis. The reason you’re single is simply that you haven’t met the right guy – and yet you have no idea where he’s coming along. Before you tune out or run away screaming, hear me out. In fact, any evidence that I provide that contradicts you is only going to make you believe in your original premise more. Yes, you’re hardwired to be stubborn and, as such, you can easily fall victim to “the confirmation bias”, which seeks out information which only reaffirms what you already believe (biting my tongue on the obvious Fox News joke…) So, if you have dated online and discovered the following: • Men sometimes lie. You think that 90% of men online are “wrong” for you. But so are 90% of men in bars, on buses, or in Starbucks.This lack of opportunity, above all, is the main reason that you’re not in love now. If you have high standards, MOST men are not going to be to your liking. I’m not a corporate shill for the online dating industry.—Boys learn to chase girls in high school and college.Those early teen experiences shape much of the way men think about relationships.No longer embarrassing or, God forbid, cringe-worthy, half of all single people now use online dating sites to find love. There are literally hundreds of dating sites out there. The experts say: This is a great site for those who are looking for personality matching.